It’s common sense, I believe, that if we want something, we take it.
This works well when sitting at a family table with a bowl of fruit in the center. Feel like an orange? Take it, it’s yours.
It won’t work as well at the local grocery store. Yes, I can take what I want, but I have to pay for what I’ve placed in my basket. But I still have the freedom to take what I want.
What if what we want requires asking for it from someone, maybe someone we don’t know? The fear of rejection is so powerful that many times we won’t even ask. There’s a psychological penalty for rejection. And out of fear of being rejected, some of us simply won’t ask.
This talk by Jia Jiang resonated with me, mostly because I could relate to his logic. I didn’t want to experience rejection.
Funny thing is, when he embraced it and decided he could stomach it, he learned a lot.
I think here could be potentially a lot of take-aways from his experience.
In case you’re interested, here is Jiang’s blog posts where he documented his rejection.